The Real Housewives

Will the real housewives please stand up?

I had a great talk with a friend last night.  He was telling Kent and I about his life when he said something that today has left me mulling over life.

I was telling him that I am ok with doing the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry etc...I am a little bit of a throw back to a 50s housewife in that respect--but I also like to work outside of the house.

He said, we hire someone to come in and do that. (Meaning...housework.)

His wife is a stay-at-home-mom.

When I started to think of the things that I do, (did before I got sick and am slowly starting to do again...) I just couldn't believe that being home all day you'd not have time to clean or cook!

And for that matter...I am too cheap to do that.

It made me re-think something that has come and gone from my thoughts these past number of months.  In some ways I think I have failed Kent this year.  I know he wouldn't say it--but my lack of input in the house, yard, cars, finances has really had it's toll on me--I can only imagine how it's been for him.

He has been doing a lot.

I have always worked, always put a paycheck into the family bank account, I have always volunteered, I have always been busy and tired.

I have pushed this thought from my head a number of times because there is no value in thinking like that.  I know Kent wouldn't put that on me, so why should I be allowed to?

My friend Pam said to me something like: women who do their own housework have a pride in their home and take ownership of their home unlike women who don't.  I love that---It's so true.

So, I just put a load of laundry on, started doing some dinner stuff, cleaned the kitchen and bathroom.  And to treat myself.....

I AM GOING TO WORK TOMORROW!

Oh, God is good.

I am doing a 4 hour re-training time and then I will be put back into the schedule for work.

If you are wondering I am still doing radiation.  I am finished 13/20 treatments, but the BC Cancer Agency and my office are willing to work around a work schedule.

I. Am. Thrilled.