Doing Wife Things

I laced up my runners yesterday, got my iPod and went for a walk, about 4.5kms.

It felt really good to be doing something so normal.  I didn't have a ton of energy, but I was thinking about how something at rest stays at rest, something in motion stays in motion...I decided to get moving.

I walked Pippin through the dog park, but he was behaving so badly I didn't take him off the leash.  When I do--I have to walk Pippin speed--which is really slow.  So, I decided first day back, he'd have to re-learn how to walk my speed.

Getting into the car we were both so thirsty, so I got out our water bottles as I closed the door of the car....on my phone.

I knew what I had done immediately.  I pulled my phone out of my pocket and sure enough all the screen but a little corner is black.  Sigh.  Life isn't life without spending money....more money.

So, then the debate, iPhone or Samsung?  I already have an iPod, I don't necessarily need and iPhone for music, I just need a phone that will phone and text....oh ya, and the 300 contacts I have....

I was so tired by 9pm, I also slept solidly until 5am--my normal pre-cancer routine.

Melissa's last day of work was yesterday.  She came in the door last night and felt really good not to have to be working at Murchie's her boss was really tough this summer--she also felt bad that she isn't going to be working for weeks and weeks!

I told her that I need her this week, next week she is getting married, then on her honeymoon, then setting up her house, doing wife things....(not what you are thinking....), then before she knows it she will be back to school!

I have been having lots of talks with her this summer about marriage, relationships and doing wife things.

I have always considered wife things, the things that feed my husbands soul.  Not just his tummy.  Not just his physical needs.  I remember the day I discovered this--I made him an apple pie.  He came in the house after work and said it smells like oatmeal!  He came around the corner and was absolutely amazed that I had made him a pie.  He loved it!


I try to do things like that for Kent every once-in-a-while.  A while ago, after Kent had a long week, I was sick, he was stressed.  I got up on a Saturday morning made him breaky in bed and turned on some Soccer for him to watch.  You could see him starting to relax.  Then I said I have a job for you to do today and I could see the weight re-establishing itself on his shoulders.  I then said, there is a lunch on the counter, take the kayak and don't come home until 4.  He had a great day on the water and returned at 3.  


That's doing wife things.


When he got home the laundry was done the house cleaned and *if* he wanted to do chores he could but it was not expected of him.


The weight for a day was gone.

The idea of doing wife things has been something I have always had in my mind.  It wasn't until I moved to Victoria when I brought baking into work when a co-worker said to me, I'd still be married if my wife did wife things like that.

Such and easy thing, making cookies, sending Kent out to kayak, joining him in the backyard with lemonade for him while he is working, what do you do that would be considered a "wife thing?"